Our Story

We both initially believed that a stalker was likely to be an exceptionally intelligent individual. However, after discussing the matter with several Profilers, we learned this is not always the case. In reality, such a person might very well be sitting alone in a dimly lit room, possibly wearing a dirty old tracksuit, and perhaps neglecting basic hygiene like showering. They often exhibit clear signs of narcissism and lead an isolated, solitary existence. While their behavior may evoke some degree of pity, it is also often rooted in feelings of resentment or perceived wrongs inflicted upon them by others.

My name is Susan Plower, and I’ve created this blog as a way to share our journey and shed light on how my husband and I ultimately found a way to make peace with our stalker. Through this platform, we hope to provide insights, share our experiences, and offer a sense of connection to others who may be facing similar challenges. My goal is that this blog serves as a source of encouragement, understanding, and possibly guidance for anyone struggling to cope with the distress of anonymous harassment.

For anyone unfamiliar with our story, we have been the recipients of anonymous letters for the past five years and are now entering our sixth year of this ordeal. To help you understand the gravity and persistence of this situation, it’s important to note that we have received more than 500 letters so far. This has been an ongoing and deeply concerning issue that continues to impact us.

It has now been seven weeks since we last received any correspondence, and we are inclined to believe that “our letter writer” may have lost their resolve and brought this campaign of malice to an end. At first, we had hoped they would continue writing, as it seemed the only possible way for this individual or group to eventually be identified and held accountable. However, in the absence of further contact, we have embraced a sense of calm and have come to terms with the likelihood that they may have sought the professional support and treatment they so clearly needed.

We sincerely wish them all the best as they continue on their journey and genuinely hope that, in time, they come to realize that their actions have had little to no effect on our family or the way we live our daily lives. Regardless of their intentions, we have remained strong, unified, and deeply connected as a family, and, if anything, this experience has only reinforced the strength of our relationships and the love we share. Our determination, resilience, and commitment to one another are unshakable, and we move ahead with an even greater sense of unity, love, and togetherness than before.

We have often been asked how we have been managing and adapting to this situation in our daily lives, and it is this recurring question that inspired us to consider sharing our experiences. By doing so, we hope to provide support and guidance to others who might be navigating similar challenges. There’s a timeless saying that goes, “A problem shared is a problem halved,” and we truly believe in the wisdom behind these words.

We have come to the conclusion that perhaps we can transform the past five years of our lives into something meaningful and, in some way, offer support or guidance to others through our experiences. Needless to say, this journey has been incredibly challenging and has tested us in ways we never imagined. Yet, the outpouring of support and encouragement we have received since sharing our story publicly has been nothing short of extraordinary, and we are deeply grateful for it. Anyone who knows us personally understands that we are a quiet and private family who typically prefer to keep our lives to ourselves. We are fortunate to have an incredible network of friends and the unwavering strength of a close-knit family backing us through it all.

These are the initial five handwritten letters that we received. During the first year, they were relatively mild in tone and nature, lacking the intensity that would later define the correspondence. However, as time went on, the letters took a dark and disturbing turn, becoming increasingly vicious, malicious, and filled with venom. They were no longer confined to us directly but began invading every aspect of our lives, being sent not only to our homes but also to our workplaces. Even more distressing, they targeted our children, extended family, and close friends, spreading their toxic reach far and wide.