We have received another letter on the 27/02/2006
It looks like our pen pal is very annoyed, We wondered had our pen pal died, had they been arrested, or committed to a mental institution as 16 weeks is a long time without communications. Maybe they were waiting for money to come in as they have spent so much money on us in the last 7 years as we outlined in previous posts.
We have uploaded the letter here in a redacted form to protect other parties who were mentioned in the letter have a read and let us know what you think.
I have been following your site for a while, I am a psychology major working in the health care profession,.
reading this I am going to offer my analysis of the likely mindset and psychological characteristics of the writer (or writers), based on common patterns seen in this type of behavior as it was the bases of my final thesis.
The person has Deep-seated resentment and envy, The letter fixates obsessively on your material possessions (cars, house condition), social media presence, personal appearance, age, relationships, and perceived failures or hypocrisies. There’s clear envy e.g., mocking cars as “rust heaps” while implying the writer knows “what a real Merc is like,” belittling blogs, TikToks, golf as attention-seeking, and attacking weight and appearance in a gendered, vicious ways. This suggests the sender feels inferior or aggrieved in comparison and is projecting their own insecurities outward.
The have a Intense personal grudge or perceived sense of betrayal, the level of intimate detail of past relationships, medical history like stents, back surgery, private confidences shared with “friends,” family dynamics, specific car models and mileage, even plans to move points to someone who knows you or “in your circle” very well possibly a neighbor, former acquaintance, ex-associate, or someone who has monitored you closely for years. The repeated theme of “everyone knows” “ask anyone in the area” “look up comments online” is a common tactic to isolate victims by making them feel universally despised. The betrayal motif (e.g., Suzie allegedly breaking trust with private information) mirrors the writer’s own sense of having been wronged or excluded.
It is very obvious that they have Narcissistic and sadistic traits, The writer derives clear pleasure from degradation, piling on insults (“sick fat hippo cunt,” “wanker,” “sad pervert,” “loser and tosser”), sexual shaming, age-shaming, and public humiliation fantasies (tattooing insults, telling new buyers to sue). This isn’t just anger; it’s enjoyment in causing pain, often linked to sadistic tendencies or malignant narcissism. The glee in predicting you’ll be followed by “this shit” wherever you go shows a desire for long-term psychological dominance.
Sending 500 + letters indicates compulsive behavior this isn’t a one-off outburst but a sustained campaign. The repetition of emojis at the end may be a mocking “silence” gesture or attempt to overwhelm visually. Such persistence often ties to fixation, where the target becomes a central outlet for the writer’s unresolved rage, possibly displacing problems in their own life.
The person suffers from Low empathy, high entitlement, and cowardice, hiding behind the anonymity of posting letters allows uninhibited cruelty without accountability, a hallmark of low empathy and moral disengagement. The writer feels entitled to judge and punish your entire lives but hides to avoid consequences. This cowardice often stems from fear of rejection or confrontation in real life.
I would suggest there are possible underlying issues, Writers of repeated poison pen letters frequently struggle with personality disorders (e.g., traits of narcissistic, borderline, or antisocial personality) Chronic bitterness and self-loathing turned outwards. as well as social isolation or rejection sensitivity.
I feel that they have envy-driven rumination, where this letter writer has negative thought pattern where a person fixates obsessively on feelings of envy toward you and your family, looping endlessly on perceived advantages that the you and your family have has (e.g., possessions, success, relationships, status, appearance, or lifestyle) while the self feels deprived or inferior. This combines two psychological processes.
Envy is a painful, self-conscious emotion arising from social comparison as they perceive you having something desirable that they lack, leading to resentment, bitterness, frustration, anger, or inferiority.
It often involves Malicious envy (hostile type): Wanting to tear down or harm the envied person to reduce the gap (e.g., spreading rumors, sabotage, or anonymous attacks). Benign envy (less common in this context): Motivates self-improvement, but envy-driven rumination usually tips into the malicious, destructive form.
Envy thrives on upward comparisons (looking at those “better off”) and is amplified by factors like low self-esteem, shame, perceived injustice, or external triggers (e.g., social media, life events, or visible success of others).
Rumination is passive, repetitive dwelling on negative emotions, their causes, and consequences without problem-solving or resolution. It’s like mental chewing: replaying scenarios, replaying injustices, imagining what “should” be different, or fantasizing about revenge or equality.
In envy-driven rumination specifically Thoughts circle around “Why do they have X and I don’t?”, “It’s unfair”, “They don’t deserve it”, “Look at their flaws to feel better”, or “How can I expose them or make them suffer?”.
This loop sustains and intensifies the envy, preventing emotional processing or moving on. It often leads to increased anxiety, depression, hostility, or even behavioral escalation (e.g., indirect aggression like gossip, anonymous harassment, or stalking-like fixation).
In cases like this sustained anonymous campaign in your case poison pen letters over years, The person ruminates you the target’s perceived “better” life (nice house, cars, social media presence, family, achievements).
Envy fuels obsessive monitoring (checking online, local gossip, real-world spying).
Rumination keeps the resentment fresh, thoughts turn into actions (letters attacking possessions, appearance, relationships, spreading lies to “level” the playing field or punish).
It becomes self-reinforcing: each rumination session provides temporary relief (catharsis or superiority fantasy) but deepens fixation, leading to compulsion.
It leads to Self-conscious emotions (envy, shame, jealousy) strongly correlating with rumination. Increased risk for mental health issues (anxiety, depression) in the ruminator. In extreme cases, indirect links to aggressive or harassing behaviors when envy turns malicious and rumination provides “justification” or planning space.
Sadly in cases like this that I have dealt with traps the person in a cycle: envy , Starting with rumination then more intense envy followed by distorted perceptions (exaggerating the target’s “perfection” or flaws) in some cases there is the potential outward harm but this does not seem to be the case at the moment as the attacks have been limited to the letters for now. This person need profession psychological help which may feed into the absence of letters for sixteen weeks, Is it possible that this person was incarcerated either in a prison or a mental health facility. Breaking this behavior usually requires interrupting rumination (e.g., mindfulness, cognitive re-framing, gratitude practices) and addressing underlying envy (building self-worth, realistic comparisons).
In short, envy-driven rumination is a destructive mental habit where envy hijacks the mind’s tendency to brood, turning inward pain into prolonged, obsessive negativity often fueling resentment that can spill into real world actions if unchecked. It’s more about the ruminator’s unresolved inner distress than the actual target.
In short, this person appears consumed by hatred, envy, and a need to tear you down to feel temporarily superior or avenged. The mindset is toxic, irrational, and self-reinforcing, each letter likely provides a short dopamine hit of power and control, fueling the next one. It’s not about rational grievances; it’s emotional poison from someone deeply unhappy with their own life.
I have included my email if you would like to reach out, please do not publish my email or full name, I’m really sorry this has dragged on for 7 years that’s an extraordinarily long time to endure this level of sustained, targeted harassment.
Drop me a line and I will get back to you