Sometimes, in the fast pace of life, we often tend to overlook the precious moments that truly matter. The spontaneous decisions we make, without much planning, often turn out to be the most memorable and cherished experiences. Simply taking the time to notice the small details that are so frequently ignored can give us a profound sense that the world around us is an incredibly remarkable and beautiful place. We really should make it a point to stop and smell the roses more often, embracing each day as it comes. After all, tomorrow is never guaranteed, but the happy moments we create today build lasting memories that stay with us forever.
We recently spent a really lovely day together, completely free of any agenda or strict plans—just a simple trip out and a walk in the gentle rain, ending with a favourite 99 cone. The world is truly a wonderful place, and even dedicating just a few hours each day to being fully mindful of our surroundings helps us realize this more deeply. Over the past five plus years, both of us lost a little faith in everything as a result of this campaign. However, exploring this somewhat humble effort to explain this episode has allowed us to understand that its impact is actually quite minimal in the grand scheme of things.
Yes, of course, reading the letters can be hurtful, but now we treat them simply as what they are—just words. People will always have opinions about how we live our lives, but most will not let those opinions affect them deeply. We all celebrate things in our own unique ways, and the little victories or shared moments are ours alone to own and cherish. It’s important to build a home filled with love and joy and to enjoy life fully because the little things often lead to bigger, more meaningful experiences down the road.
We hold no hatred toward the individual or individuals behind this campaign because, in reality, they have not truly harmed us. Why harbour anger when their frustration is directed more at society or their perspective on the world? Learning to appreciate the world around us could be a healing step for them. They may have already come to this realization, as our correspondence appears to have ceased. It has been over two months since we last received any communication, and for that, we are grateful. We hope they have found inner peace and are able to enjoy life’s precious moments. Remember to cherish the little things and not to sweat the small stuff.
So true x
Hi Susan and Dave,
Having been on the receiving end of poison pen letter writer I can fully understand how stressful this is on you, it is important to relish the wonderful summer days and enjoy them with your family, A 99 is simply wonderful on a summer’s day when out with family,
It is very positive that your stalker is no longer sending you hate mail maybe the spiteful person is dead or in a psychiatric hospital or back on their meds.
In the case of my stalker when she was finally captured it turned out she was involved in a group that I was involved in, Her husband had left her for “younger” model which she resented greatly, My big mistake which brought the wrath of her upon me was the simple act of buying food for the ladies on the committee after a meeting, She saw this as me trying to “show off” where as in my mind it was a sign of gratitude as we had completed a fundraiser for a charity that was dear to my heart.
My late husband and I set up a business in the late 1980s, Initially I set it up and he left his job to join, In became very successful through our hard work and us taking care of our team, We sold it just before the crash in 2010, invested our money in property became loan free with the view to enjoying life and seeing the world sadly my husband had a late diagnoses of prostate cancer which lead to palliative care and ultimately his death which broke my heart, It was so sad as we had all the money we ever wanted yet the one thing that matter in my life was gone, You are so lucky to have your family and or loving husband, We tried for family but it never happened. My stalker took great exception to my kindness, and the letters started soon after. She send vile letters making accusations to other people in the lions club about having affairs with their husbands and in some cases their teenage sons, she reported my car on many occasions from a pay phone for speeding, drink driving and one time for being a call girl it was only after this did the police take notice as she was wasting their time.
It took three years to find the person, when she went before the court she pleaded temporary insanity, The Judge saw through this, and she was committed to a psychiatric facility indefinitely until such time as the doctors declared her compos mentis. She went crazy in the court which did not help matters, My brief at that time said she might get six months in prison if convicted and even at that it would be a low security unit, Last we heard she was released from the psychiatric facility after 6 years, she was not the person she was when she went in, I have been told she looks like the walking dead and has been shunned by everyone she knows.
I wish you and your family the best, be safe, be kind to each other, and most importantly be happy, your stalker is a very unhappy person and most certainly mentally Ill.